Saturday, May 09, 2009

Elizabeth Edwards Gets Her Revenge?

The thought that John Edwards once had a legitimate chance at becoming president of the United States still terrifies me. Personal politics aside, I believe that most Americans now recognize this man for the worm that he is. Who can forget the way he was caught slinking around a California hotel on a post-midnight visit to the mistress (and her baby) he had apparently stashed there for just such occasions. Remember how he holed up (pun intended) in the hotel washroom for something like an hour hoping that the photographers would go away? The shallowness of the man was easier for some to spot than others, but for me the truth was forever exposed in that simple YouTube video showing Edwards combing and patting his hair for several minutes prior to a television appearance. That video earned him the "Breck Girl" title that he still carries.

Do you get the impression that I find John Edwards to be a despicable human being? Well, you're right. At the same time, though, except for the one instance in which she was involved in a political dirty trick of her own, I had great sympathy for Elizabeth Edwards. Still do, for the most part. But like so many people, I have to wonder what motivated her to not only write a tell-all book about life as Mrs. John Edwards, but to hit hard the publicity trail to talk about it to the likes of Oprah, Larry King, that bunch of harpies on the View, and Jon Stewart.

I can't begin to know why Elizabeth Edwards is opening up all the old family wounds again since she is supposedly still living with her husband (of course, that is a huge home and they may not actually see much of each other) while fighting a terminal illness. Perhaps it is her final revenge against a husband who has made her life so miserable and so embarassing. Could it be that she wants to embarrass Edwards and his lover,Rielle Hunter, so badly that Hunter will not dare marry Edwards when that opportunity finally presents itself? Is she trying to poison the minds of her children against their father by telling her side of the story while she still has the chance?

I have no idea. The one thing for sure is that she is not doing it just for the money, so it has to be for more personal reasons such as getting her feelings on paper now rather than leaving that to be done by others after her death.

But will the book actually sell in large numbers? Are that many people really interested in wallowing in all the Edwards mud one more time? Is this what we've come to, America? I, for one, cannot even imagine having this book on my shelves. Helping this woman degrade herself is not something I want to do.

22 comments:

  1. As long as I am being brutally honest, like I was about Picoult....

    I watched Oprah the other day, something I never do, and it was painful to watch Eliz. Edwards.

    I always perceived John Edwards as sneaky and slimy.....but Joe Biden is just as bad. I guess he is just a better actor and somehow managed to convince people he is a decent human being. But not me..... I know better.

    And how could I trust or have faith in the judgment of someone who would chose this buffoon as his VP? Answer: I don't/can't.

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  2. JoAnn, I've only seen a snippet or two from Oprah's interview, but my reaction was the same as yours. I couldn't stand watching the woman humiliate herself this way, especially considering her health issues. I wonder why she put up with the worm for so many years - is she a classic "enabler," do you think?

    As for Biden...how in the world did such a clown get to where he is today? I've can't recall ever seeing such a loose canon in the White House. I'm still not sure what Obama thought he was getting with that choice, but I suspect he regrets it every day.

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  3. We're all going to exit the world someday and not everyone is a Tuesdays With Morrie type. Mud-slinging and a dying woman...it's too much for Americans to resist. But I'm with you on wondering why.

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  4. Sadly enough, I think you're right, Suzi. In an age where celebrity gossip seems to be as necessary to some people as food and air, this was bound to happen with a trash book like this one. I just can't imagine why the woman wants to put herself and her children through this. John "Worm" Edwards is fair game, but she should have given some thought to what her children will take from all of this.

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  5. Sam said "As for Biden...how in the world did such a clown get to where he is today? I've can't recall ever seeing such a loose canon in the White House. I'm still not sure what Obama thought he was getting with that choice, but I suspect he regrets it every day."

    I think the choice of Biden says volumes about Obama's lack of judgment. And the choice of this team says volumes about the American electorate's lack of ability to distinguish the difference between oratory and experience.

    Not that we had such a great choice, to be sure.

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  6. I'm guessing this book will be a bestseller, and I can think of a few people off the top of my head that will most likely be purchasing a copy. Sadly, there aren't many books I can say that about. I'm not surprised that Elizabeth Edwards wrote the book. It probably was a cathartic experience for her, but to actually go through with publishing it and then to do the talk show rounds? I don't know why she would put herself through that unless she really likes the spotlight that much that she will do anything to be in it.

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  7. Maybe she's going to donate the money to cancer research, but still...

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  8. This is not a book I'll be reading, but I was surprised on Friday when Border's had it at the checkout and was promoting it to each customer as they made their purchase!

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  9. I saw that they were having her on the Today Show this morning and both my husband and I remarked that neither of us wanted to hear the details. I won't be buying the book.

    Great post Sam!

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  10. It was a dismal election for sure, JoAnn. I held my nose and voted for the lesser of the two evils we could choose - and lost.

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  11. I think we are going to be shaking our heads about her motives for a long time, Alissa. I hope she's not really so hung up on the spotlight that she's willing to sell herself for the fame. There's a phrase for that but I won't attach it to her just yet.

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  12. I don't know, Suzi...maybe. But I would think she'd be saying that by now if so.

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  13. JoAnn, I saw an article last week about how the Borders people have their staffs using "cheerleader" techniques and showing lots of public enthusiasm to sell books. Maybe your local branch has decided to push that one...

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  14. Amy, I can't watch her and couldn't stomach the book...too much like watching a bad car wreck.

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  15. The Oprah interview had a few jaw dropping moments and I can't decide if I regretted watching it or not. It was painful to watch her - but great to see John Edwards look like the proverbial deer in the headlights.

    I think Elizabeth Edwards is very angry which is understandable. But I keep wondering what she thinks her children's reaction to this best is going to be in the future. There isn't any scenario that this book is going to be good for them unless she establishes a trust fund for them with the proceeds.

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  16. "children's reaction to the book" is what i was trying to type. my brain was typing something else!

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  17. I'm under the impression, though, Sarah, that this couple is extremely wealthy already. Do you think she wants to leave the children something of her own? If so, it is too close to "blood money" for comfort, IMO. I can't imagine how these two live under the same roof - even if the house is something like 8000 square feet in size.

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  18. Interesting discussion, Sam. I'll steer clear of the politics since I think I might be in the minority on your blog *smiles*

    BUT, why did she write it? I think you hit on two points I would agree with - 1. She wanted to tell her side of the story, especially since she may not be around when her children are adults, and 2. It was cathartic.

    I divorced a cheater, and I wrote about it in fictional short stories because it was cathartic. I doubt I'd write a tell-all book (non fiction), but I could see the scumbag showing up in a novel someday *laughs*

    I'll tell you the one thing that really bugged me about her "story" (I have not and most likely will not read the book)...she has "forgiven" her husband but refers to his lover as someone who "tempted" and is "pathetic." It always bugs me when the betrayed blame the other woman (or person)...no matter the "temptation" Elizabeth's husband made a choice to cheat. Period. Her anger should be directed at him primarily.

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  19. Wendy, I can understand the cathartic aspect eaisest of all but I still wonder about why she took the next step of actually seeking a publisher. Leaving a record behind for children to read for themselves a decade from now is one thing, but going public while they are still so long is where I question her reasoning.

    And I totally agree with your assessment of where the blame should be placed. It takes two to get into this kind of thing and, while forgiving the spouse may be admirable in some sense, continuing to villify the other person in sarcastic or degrading terms is pretty shallow...a form of rationalization, I suspect.

    Politics aside (and I hate to let them show as much as I have recently), my first impression of John Edwards was that he's the wimpy, kind of pretty-boy guy that most men have no respect for but who fools women quite easily into thinking he's something he's not. I'm not always right with my first impression of a person, but it looks like I pegged this guy.

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  20. Wendy, you bring up a couple of great points. She talked about how women should respect other women and not go after what another woman has. While I agree with that, one of the jaw dropping moments was when she seemed to blame the other woman for the whole affair. If some yahoo man starts an affair just because some woman tells him he's "hot", then he wasn't much of a man to begin with & the marriage wasn't as solid as it might appear.

    Sam, yes, I understand they do have a lot of money. However, the other jaw dropping moment was when she indicated the "other woman" and her child had nothing to do with EE's life. That may be true and I understand why she has to ignore them. However, if that child is his child, it's only a matter of time before the other woman goes after JE's money. Maybe Elizabeth wanted to make her own money and set it aside for her children - something that can't be touched by the "other woman".

    The whole situation is terribly sad. This couple has lost one child, is dealing with cancer, etc. A lot of marriages don't survive those kinds of things and she's between a rock and a hard place. She has no idea how long she has to live and she may feel she'll need him if she gets very sick.

    The point of all this is that these decisions are very personal, private ones. Her decision about staying or leaving her marriage is solely up to her but if she's decided to stay, I really don't understand why she wrote the book.

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  21. I agree, Sam, sharing your dirt with the whole world when you have young kids seems to be a bit much. Then again, the dirt was already out there and I get the feeling she wants the record set straight (from her mouth, not the papparazzi)...not that I'm saying she should have done this (I don't think she should because, as you point out, it is shallow and makes her look a little pathetic).

    Although I think our politics are not the same, I was never an Edwards fan ... he is too coifed and I never trusted him (perhaps my "cheating spouse" radar is too finely honed!!)

    Sarah: I agree - very sad. And I think sometimes these perfect looking marriages often have huges cracks in them...

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  22. This is not a book that I will bother with in the least.

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